Moms Get A Lot of $#it

**WARNING: You're going to see the word shit a lot throughout this post. $#it takes way too long to type. You've been forewarned.**

I've come to realize, that mom's just get a lot of $#it from people.

If you breastfeed, you're gonna get shit from mom's who use formula. If you breastfeed in public, you're gonna get shit from mom's who breastfeed in privacy. If you formula feed, you're going to get shit from mom's who breastfeed. If you use one type of bottle over another, or burp like this when they burp like that, or nurse for this long, when they nursed for that long, or transition from bottle to cup either before or after they did...you're going to get shit for it.

If you use disposable diapers, you get shit from cloth diaper users, and if you use cloth diapers you get shit for using cloth by people who use disposables. If you use this wipe, or that cream, or this pail, or that diaper disposal, or cloth wipes, or AIO's, or chlorine free, if you use a changing table, or just lay your kid on the floor, either way...you're going to get shit for it.

Working mama? You guessed, it you're gonna get shit from stay-at-home moms, and if you stay-at-home, you best believe you're gonna get shit from working mama's. Go to school? Full-time, part-time? Work from home, work part time from home, go to school full time from home, have an in home sitter, or use a daycare, or have grandma sit...you're going to get shit for it.

Co-sleep? Oh good lord, you're gonna get major shit from anyone who doesn't. Use a crib? Or just a pack 'n play? Bassinet in the room, crib bumpers, blankets, swaddle? Don't swaddle? Transition from crib to toddler bed before 2nd birthday? Whatever sleeping arrangement you chose...you're going to get shit for it.

Basically, whatever you DO you're gonna get shit, and lip, and talk, and criticism from people who do SOMETHING else. If you're not like them, you're wrong. If you don't share the same beliefs, you're just NOT RIGHT.

Basically I'm freaking SICK OF THE SHIT. Seriously.


I'm a mom. You're a mom. She's a mom. They're a mom. We're all mom's. When it comes down to it, we all have the same goal. Try and raise as normal kids as possible. So why does it matter that we do it all differently????


If our children, are SAFE, and HAPPY, and HEALTHY, and we're safe, and healthy, and happy, and not pulling our hair out, and doing whatever the hell it is that feels BEST to US, WHY DOES IT MATTER WHAT WE'RE DOING?!


You can judge me, and start spitting out "research" and "statistics" and "stereotypes", and I can turn around and spit them RIGHT BACK. But at the end of the day, we're reaching towards the same goal. At the end of the day we only have one person to answer to. At the end of the day we're all playing for the same team.


Do you hear that?


WE'RE ALL ON THE SAME TEAM.


I'm having baby #4 in about 11 weeks or so. He will be breastfed, sleep in my bed with me, and wear cloth diapers. That is my plan anyway. I say my plan for a good reason. My other 3? They all wore disposables. One of them was only breastfed for 8 weeks before switching to formula, one only slept in their crib, one only slept with me, and one did both. They were pushed in strollers, and rode in forward facing car seats as soon as physically possible. Sometimes I've sat in my car to feed them, sometimes I've sat in public lounge areas to feed them. So I don't know what's going to work with #4. But whatever works, is what's going to be done. And I'm sure I'll be getting shit for it from someone who did or does or thinks they will do something else.


I'm not going to lie. I've been all judgy before. Internally. Because of course we automatically think we know better. That's human nature. But would I ever call someone out for doing something differently? If they're children are safe, and happy, and they're not doing something to endanger them, then you best believe I'm going to keep my mouth shut. Because with everything I've tried out there, chances are I've done whatever it is they're going to do. And if I haven't yet, there may be a day I will. And it's okay. Because we're all playing for the same team.


The mom team.


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