"17. I believe fully that I love my husband more than the average wife loves their husband."
It's very, very true that not only a} Do I truly FEEL that I love my husband more than anyone else loves theirs, but that b} I am quite certain I love my husband more than, well, at least most anyone loves theirs. Honest.
Sometimes I wish I could say that my husband was my first love. You know, do the whole cliche', "When my children ask me who my first love was, i want to look across the room at their father and say, 'He's sitting right there.'" Blah, blah, blah. But you know what? I'm thankful and glad my husband isn't my first love. He may not have been my first love, but I can guaran-damn-tee you, he is my greatest.
I would take being someone's greatest love, over being their first love, any day of the week.
I can honestly say, without a doubt in my mind, that Mel is the love of my life. {As well as my son Joshua, my daughter Hailey, my daughter Leah, and I'm sure as the sun, my son Grayson will also be the love of my life. Wait...can you have 5 loves of your life? Hmm...well back to it...}
He has loved me unconditionally. He has shown me unlimited patience, and kindness. He has never spoken to me in anger. He has never belittled me, never raised his voice at me, never humiliated me. He has shown me what true love is.
1 Corinthians 13:4 (New International Version)
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
That is everything our love is, and more.
Ephesians 5:25-27(New International Version)
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.
That is how I am loved.
I've only been in two serious relationships in my life. Both have lead to marriage. One was everything love shouldn't be. {You can guess which one that was.} It breaks my heart because I see so many people in marriages identical to my first marriage. I see them tell themselves the same things I would tell myself. "Everyone fights, it's normal to fight.", "This is just how we are, we bicker, and don't get along, but we're the funny couple.", "It will get better the first year is always hard.", "They say the second year is harder than the first year.", "If we can just make it to year 5 we'll be so much stronger in our marriage!", "That's just not the way my husband is, some husband are like that, some aren't, it doesn't mean he loves me any less.", "He does his best.".
I could go on. But I'm sure you get it.
The truth is, I was wrong. I was lying to myself. Things were bad. And they were bad for so long that all trust was gone. Once trust is gone, it doesn't come back. You may try everything, and tell yourself, and everyone around you that you trust them, but somewhere, in the back of your head, you will always feel that doubt. It took along time to admit defeat and end my first marriage. I felt like a failure in many ways.
But ending that marriage was one of the best things I ever did for not only myself, but my children.
I was lead to Mel. We fit, like we were always meant to fit. We went together so naturally it was hard to imagine that we hadn't been together for years. I found everything I wanted and needed in him. I found things in him I didn't even know I wanted and needed.
Do we fight? No. And I say no, because when I hear the word "fight" I only think back to my first marriage. And we've never had anything so dysfunctional, we've never had any disagreement or argument lead to anything close to the kind of fights I had in that marriage. Do we disagree? Uh, yea, duh! lol Do we argue? Sure, if we're disagreeing on something. But we talk through it. Sometimes we come to a compromise. Sometimes we agree to disagree. But nothing ever heats up and boils over. Everything dissolves, and cools, and is the way things should be.
I wish I could tell everyone that their "Mel" is out there! That they don't have to hurt over their relationship. Love never equals pain. Never.
No point in this post today. I just wanted to shout from the mountain tops how much I love my husband, and how blessed I am to have him. And to let people know that this kind of love is out there for everyone, don't settle!
Just feeling extra lovey today I guess.
Here's a pic or two of my hairy mountain man!!! ♥♥
He's not normally this mountainy, or hairy. lol
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