I have had several friends post about Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day, which happens to be today, October 15th. Many have shared their personal experiences with loss. Personally, I know so many people that have lost babies. At many different stages and times in pregnancy and even after. To be honest there are often times when I believe that we, as a society, don't talk about our babies enough. I know for some this is hard, like opening a wound. But I also think that just trying to forget or to suffer quietly and alone cannot be good!
I think sometimes it feels like our babies were only real to us, and are only remembered by us. That is why I appreciate this awareness day so much! To me it's saying, our babies, our losses were real!
Why must we suffer alone when so many others have suffered the same way? I believe we should support each other! Share stories, pray together, cry together, and remember together!
There are several babies I think of most when I think of loss. Two are my own. The others are children to people I hold near and dear to my heart.
I don't think of these babies once a year just because it happens to be a day that someone happened to set aside to grow awareness. I think about these lives when their due dates, and what could have been there birthdays, come and go. I think of them when I see children that would be about their age. I think of them on the anniversary of the day they were taken to be with Jesus. I think of them when I hear someone else has lost their baby. I think of them for countless reasons.
The point is, they're never forgotten. And I hate the thought of my friends, both very close, and some not so close, that may think that they're the only ones remembering.
I can honestly say I no longer feel sad when I think of the two precious little ones I know are waiting for me at our Heavenly Father's side. More often than not I feel curious. I never knew if they were boys or girls, and I know one day I get to find out! That's comforting to me! I know that even though they grew inside of me for such a short time that they will know me as their mama. If it were up to me, and we lived in a perfect world, it would be my dream to have 8 babies. But the world we live in is SO the opposite of perfect so I said, okay, 6. I can go with 6. It turns out though that our family here on earth is complete with our 4 children. And I can't help but to think it is because I DID get my 6 babies that I dreamed of! Unfortunately it is just going to be a while before we are complete as a family.
If you have experienced loss, and statistically it is very likely you have, then please join me today in remembering! And not just today! Join me in remembering every day! If the pain is still new, and raw, or fresh enough that things still tend to make pain new and raw, please know that one day it really won't hurt as badly! It may be hard to believe, but one day you will remember your baby or babies with a warm joyous heart rather than an achingly sad heart.
I believe Forrest Gump said it best when he said, "Well, that's all I have to say about that.". I just really wanted to share today. :) Hopefully it will reach someone who needs it.
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